Therapy

I tend to work with a wide variety of people and issues, for example: anxiety, stress, depression, complex trauma, sexual abuse, burn out, relationship challenges and transitions, career changes/challenges, bereavement, dealing with other people’s expectations, loneliness and/or emptiness, body image concerns, as well as co-dependency.

My main aim is to provide you with a safe space in which you feel supported to explore what is holding you back from living a deeply fulfilling and joyful life and finding many different ways to move beyond the obstacles you face. Part of this work is for you to connect more with who you really are and to discover your own path in life.

Over the years of practicing and learning, I have developed my own integrative approach of working which incorporates elements of the different perspectives I have learnt about: CBT, Compassionate Inquiry, Emotional Freedom Technique, Transpersonal Psychology, Positive psychology, Attachment theory, Polyvagal Theory, meditation and mindfulness etc. Currently I am learning how to incorporate the body more effectively in the therapeutic process.

The model I find helpful in reducing distress and moving to more authenticity, freedom and joy is to broadly distinguish between two part in us: the Adapted Self, which holds all of our trauma, experiences, programming through our upbringing in our families and culture. This part in us was developed to help us fit in and oriented itself towards other people’s expectations and feelings, rules and cultural norms. It is based on fear, scarcity and limitations. It is also the part that is rewarded by our culture and feels in charge because we developed it for our protection.
The other part I would call our Inner Being is our authentic part. This part holds our intuition, our true desires and needs. This part is unconditional love and feels connected with everything. The more we can live being guided by this part the more fulfilled and peaceful we tend to be.

Most of us, however, learn to hide this part to some extend, because we have experienced it as threatening our belonging. From this perspective, trauma is the disconnection from our selves and others after a terrible event; what truly hurts us is the disconnection and meaning we gave the terrible event because that is what we continue to live and take with us going forward. So part of our work would be to heal trauma, through that change the meaning of our limiting beliefs, learn to regulate our emotions and nervous system, heal energetically, and reconnect with our inner being. This reconnection means the chance to live a life which is meaningful and satisfying to you.